So many of my clients worry about being alone if they lose the people they care about. I tell them that even though they may have lost those people, they are still with them. People who truly love us, do not leave us. They want us to be strong and continue our lives.
I still talk to my father and I know that he protects me. He knows that I am a strong woman and believes that I can handle my life when things are difficult. If we are afraid, or worry about being alone, we are never happy. We have to believe that we have the strength to take care of our lives. We need to understand that it is not positive when we worry about being alone. It’s only fear, or illusion. It’s not the truth. If we lose someone, there is always someone that loves us. If we have family, they are there for us, especially if we learn to ask for help.
We are never alone if we have self-love and that’s why I teach my clients to love who they are. I tell them to count the good they do. If they count the good, others will follow. If they value the bad, others will follow. Strong people need to have a zest for life and enjoy the pleasures they have. We cannot live in the past, especially when we concentrate on the unhappiness we had. It is the now that we need to count. It is the pleasure we receive in the now. We need to continue to grow in the now. We need to value the gifts we give in the now. We need to wake in the morning and say “I love you.” Look in the mirror and smile.We are the only people we know in the now, and can move into the future, with self-confidence and courage.
If we are sad all the time, there will be no happiness to look forward to. Life is not so serious, it can be a lot of fun. Having fun and enjoying our lives is our choice. Sadness and misery is not having a healthy life. I have several friends who complain all the time, and nothing feels good. The also blame others for their problems. They do not know what to do with their anger. I tell them harboring their anger is their choice. If they want to openly express their feelings and let them out they will feel better, and it will be their choice.
Many of us are raised by parents, who do not express their feelings. They do not know how to talk to their children. These children grow up with fear of their feelings. They grow up a lack of self-confidence. We all have the choice of not blaming our parent for what they do. We have the choice to understand and value our character and traits. We do not have to be like our parents, unless they make us feel special. They cannot distance themselves from us. They cannot move away from affection, They gave birth to us, and have the responsibility to love us for who we are, and who they expect us to be.
We are never alone when we feel deserving and worthy. We are never alone when we live an energetic and spirited life. We cannot judge the world and the world cannot judge us. We cannot hate the world, and they cannot hate us. We are watching a lot chaos and hate in the world. We cannot follow their beliefs, and our responsibility is to do the best we can.