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It’s time for your 2015 Astrological Natal Chart

It’s time for your 2015 Astrological Natal Chart. I am a renowned astrologer and my charts are very accurate. Your birthday, time of birth, and place of birth is all I need to talk about your personality, your personal 2015, month by month. I talk to you about how to solve your problems, and why the year will be very good for you. I talk about career, relationships, and answer any questions you may have.

You can reach me if you live out of town, or schedule an appointment by calling my Chicago office, 312-944-7256. I assure you that the experience will be exciting and informative.

Looking forward to hearing from you.

Sylvia Friedman

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WHY DO I CRITICIZE MYSELF?

My experience has shown me that a huge percentage of human beings tend to be self-critical. When they complete a project, or participate in an important discussion, they begin to think, and say to themselves, “I could have handled that much better. It wasn’t perfect!” Since there is no perfect, why can’t they believe that “being good enough” is truly the way they can find clarity, and develop their best potential.

Most people TALK about the importance of believing in themselves. Yet, when they are given a compliment about their talent and ability, can they accept and receive that compliment? No, because they tend to live with negativity, when they need to live with a positive attitude.

Criticizing oneself becomes a drama on a daily basis. Instead of patting yourself on your back, and say good for you _____, you think about your mistakes or things you should have done.

We can not succeed in what we want to accomplish, or have the courage to go forward if we live with self-criticism. I urge all of you to put yourself first, because it’s not selfish, it’s healthy.

Don’t waste your time with dramas that are not true. Our self-esteem will grow when we live with understanding, and nurturing who we are. In addition we need to act on it. Here’s to enhancing the lack of self-criticism! You can do it!

Being hard on yourself is not usually the truth. I give my clients three lists to begin our coaching. What do you like about yourself? What don’t you like about yourself? How do you sabotage yourself? The shortest list is “What do I like about myself?” The longest list is “What don’t you like about yourself”.

Yesterday, I asked a client why she said she was fat? She responded with, “Because I am”! I continued with, “What size dress do you wear?” She responded with “Size 4”. I couldn’t help but smile and said, “Why are you lying?” She looked at me and said, “Lying.” I responded with “Yes, lying.”

I find that when I give my clients a compliment they do not know how to receive it. I might say,”You look pretty today.”
And my client tends to look down, or reveals her embarrassment. I respond with, “Why is it so difficult for you to accept my compliment? She would respond with, “I don’t believe it!” I could say to another client, “You are very smart”, and he may say, “Not smart enough.” I work with my clients to live and understand their truth. Most of this work is about learning what I call “Self-Love”.

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WHEN THE ASTROLOGICAL SIGNS ARE RIGHT!

WE MUST NOT ONLY EDUCATE THE MIND, BUT ALSO THE HEART! Kobi Yamada

My father asked me this question when I was seven years old. He said, “Baby what makes you happy? I smiled and said, “Daddy, love is the answer!” He laughed out loud, as he usually did, and said, “I’m going to tell the whole family that my baby needs a lot of love.” I think I never stopped being my father’s baby. In fact, it took me a while to grow up and perform as an adult. Although…to tell you the truth, I never want to say goodbye to my playful nature!

I’m truly an Aries, April 17th, and I’m grateful to have had the courage to validate all of my talents. I would always think of my father, as I changed careers. My accomplishments and success as an actress (my true love), film producer, sports agent. development director, life coach, writer and speaker is all due to my father’s faith in his only child. Even though I lost him early, I always speak to him, and say, “Daddy, keep believing in me.”

The reason I am writing about my father is that he was astrologically compatible to me. He was born in Poland on September 7th (Virgo) and came to the United States when he was thirteen years old. He barely finished the 9th grade, and astrology was a total mystery to him. He didn’t know that being born Aries the ram gave me the traits and characteristics that he loved about me. He would smile and say, “Baby, you have so much energy and courage–you always fight for what you want.” “I responded with, “Daddy you make me so happy, because you truly love who I am.”

My experience as a life coach has shown that women who grow with an attentive and loving
father tend to choose mates who are similar. If they grow up with fathers who are cold, distant, and uncommunicative, they gravitate to mates, who tend to enhance their personal insecurity.

I find that many of my male clients who were raised by domineering and controlling mothers usually attract to a domineering and controlling mate. This mate takes care of everything that they do not want to do, just like mommy did. In addition, they tend to boss them around. I have a short story about two very good friends of mine. We sit down to dinner and I hear her say, “Sit up in your chair, and don’t slouch.” I turn to him and say, “How could you tolerate that statement? He responded with, “I don’t hear her.” He’s 79 and she’s 77 and she is still telling him to sit up in his chair. When clients come to visit me and begin to complain about their bossy wives I ask them, “Why would you want to choose a mother figure over a romantic figure. They smile, shake their heads and say, “You have a point!” I also say “Do you want to be intimate with a mother figure?”
He says, “No.”

So many human beings search for what they call “true love”, but they tend to forget that their idea of “true love” may not mean “Truthful Love!” We cannot forget the importance of developing our consciousness, in order to understand and recognize the kind of person we attract to.” You may be thinking, “What does consciousness mean? When I coach clients, whose relationships are in trouble, I try to tell them. “Relationships are not an illusion. No man or woman should be put on a pedestal because he or she will eventually fall off.” I smile and say, “Remember my ongoing reminder, “be realistic about who you connect to.” NO ONE IS PERFECT!”
My next book is about love relationships, with the aid of Astrology!

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DO YOU KNOW WHEN YOU ARE NOT LIVING YOUR TRUTH?

1. Do you hang on to difficult situations?
2. Do you accept that you are worthy and deserving?
3. Do you believe people when they give you a compliment?
4. Do you hide from your real feelings?
5. Are you afraid people might not like you?
6. Do you mind spin and never resolve your questions?
7. Are you an extreme pleaser?
8. Do you approve of yourself?
9. Are you very fearful and lack trust?
10. Do you have the courage to stand up for yourself?
11. Are you afraid of personal confrontation?
12. Do you hold on and build anger on a daily basis?
13. Are you very self-critical?
14. Are you critical and judgmental of others?
15. Do you concentrate on your problems everyday, without resolving them? YES, BUT…
16. Do you take everything personally?
17. Do you trust yourself?
18. Are you overly private?
19. Do you see a romantic figure in the right light?
20. Do you see friendship in the right light?
Take this quiz and if your rating needs help. I offer a program on SELF-LOVE.

We all need to love ourselves. You can contact me at 312-944-7256

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Hope is stronger than fear!

Believing in hope has allowed me to see the truth of my success. Since I am a positive person HOPE has been my guide, rather than FEAR. My hopeful nature has also empowered my courage. It is an ongoing light that shines on it.

As a coach I often hear my clients say, “I hope this is the right thing to do”, when they have to make a serious decision in their lives. I inspire them by saying “Hope is your friend when you need to make that kind of decision.” They smile and say, “You and hope!” I smile back and respond with “It works for me.”

Of course I also work with clients who are always waiting for the next shoe to drop. They tend to worry, worry, worry. Their nervous anxiety has nothing to do with being hopeful. In fact, they do not value hope, because they are caught in the drama of unhappiness. It’s amazing how that drama becomes a habit.

I looked in the dictionary for the definition of hope. I was impressed that it emphasized “the hope of winning.” It touched me because I consider hope as a positive force, and we win when we’re positive. On the contrary When I looked up the definition of fear it was negative, because it talked about hurt and rejection. Too many of us allow our fear to prevail, as our way of not taking action.

I also ask my clients, “Why do you think fear is safe?” They often respond with, “it hurts less than speaking their truth. Can you imagine fear feels better than living their truth.

The world can be a fearful place, and we certainly have experienced a huge lack of understanding and communication at this point in time. Can you imagine killing someone because his or her religious bent is not the same. Can you imagine killing children and how confused they are with the terror they see around them. Their natural spirits are kidnapped by the pain they endure.

My father, with only a ninth grade education, inspired me to understand that I had to take care of myself, because I owned me, and needed to be there for me. Of course he was always there for me, but his teaching that I needed to love myself saved me from allowing any abuse into my life. He was a very unusual and caring man, who taught me to always hope for the best.

My philosophy is to believe that maintaining hope in our lives, will help us to take risks, welcome change, laugh at ourselves, know that our struggles are worth it, and most of all conquer our depression.

Hope is the reason our hearts sing. Hope is the reason our faces shine, and hope is the reason for our strength to grow. Hope is much stronger than fear!

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THE NEED FOR COMPASSION IN TIMES OF WAR!

Why do people fight in wars? I’m sure that we all have feelings and thoughts about this, especially now. Our sadness comes from seeing the innocent children and civilian families murdered on a daily basis. Does God or religion want an individual to wear a bomb, kill himself, and 50 people around him? My answer is NO! Whatever our religion the answer is NO! When does death become more important than life?

We cannot have compassion when we hate, build anger, seek control and power. I believe that if those who fight in wars could possess self-knowledge, and understand the truth of who they are, perhaps they would gain a sense of right or wrong. Hopefully if they had more education, and could find peace in who they are, they would not want to harm themselves or others. Since the understanding of the self is not encouraged by parents, who suffer just to make a living, children pay the price. Psychology is not a practice when everything else is a struggle. Therefore, since the understanding of the self is not a common believe system or a taught attribute in the upbringing of a child, they are forced to follow their parent’s lead.

Without a proper understanding of the self, one would resort or fall back upon the notion that hate and anger are the resolves to life’s problems. Of course we know that hate and anger are deep wounds that we can carry forever.

When we build hate, anger, and resentment we fog our minds and have no clarity. Therefore we resort to confusion when making decisions. The leaders that inspire war are looking for control and power. It usually comes from their lack of personal security. Can you imagine the futility of living a life based on fear and survival? Having to Watch those beautiful children, as they lay there dead, without a chance to follow the wonderful journeys they may have had. These children were the victims by the fear-based environment of their daily existence.

Where is love? Where is peace of mind? Imagine the beautiful harmony in living with togetherness, as well as an understanding you and another are often similar, but convinced that religion sets you apart.

The focus should be on what unites us, not what divides us. When we can rejoice in our strengths collectively as human beings, we can then begin to see and understand our own strengths as individuals.

Even though the pain is constant and becomes the truth of daily life, it does not have to be. How we chose to identify with our pain will either be a way of overcoming it, or allowing it to destroy us.

Wars are not coming to an end soon, and we have so much to do. We need to believe that we can heal. It is through healing that we can truly accept and give the gift of compassion. We must first and foremost have compassion for ourselves.

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What has Astrology done for me?

When I got divorced 25 years ago, I had a good job, but needed more money to be sure that I could support myself and my two children. I wasn’t one of the luckey women who received a lot of money for alimony and child support. If I could look back I would have been much smarter.

I thought, “What other jobs could I have that fit in with my ongoing job?” It didn’ t take me long to come up with this decision. As I gave said before, I learned to love Astrology as a young girl. It didn’t take me long to make this new career decision. “I’m going to study Astrology, and I could build a clientele doing Natal Charts, Relationship Charts, Family charts, and coaching.” Fortunately, it was a good decision, as I have become a good astrologer, and have become a better life coach because of my astrological knowledge.

I learned that there are 12 signs in the zodiac. These twelve personalities have become personal friends. I know them so well. Each sign has a particular mantra, which tells a lot about that person. I am not narrow-minded about anything, as I am the ultimate learner. After 25 years I know that Astrology is valid and helpful.

Astrology has proven to be a form of psychology for me. I must admit that I am also an intuitive, and my intuition helps me to go deeper than most.  When I do a natal chart for a client and a handwriting analysis I know who is walking into my office. Numerology is an inescapable part of astrology.

I interpret one year at a time giving my clients an idea of what is before them, and help them to understand how to make decisions. I have helped many clients, and it has been very gratifying.

Aries  “I Am” – Love is Innocence and love is trust. Taurus “I Have” love is patience and love is forgiveness. Gemini “I Think” Love is awareness and learn that love is feeling. Cancer “I Feel” Love is devotion and love is freedom.  Leo “I Will” Love is ecstasy and learn that love is humility. Virgo ” I Analyze” Love is pure and love is fulfillment” Libra “I Balance “Love is beauty and love is harmony. Scorpio “Love is Passion and love is surrender.” Sagittarius  “I See” “Love is honesty and love is loyalty. Capricorn “I use” Love is wisdom and love is unselfish. Aquarius “I know” Love is tolerance and love is oneness. Pisces “I believe” Love is compassion and love is ALL.

These mantras are the keys to helping each sign understand how they approach love. There are so many facets that come out of your birthday, time of birth, and place of birth. I have never doubted Astrology and it’s truth. Astrology helps us to learn our truth.  You can contact me at 312-944-7256, in order understand yourself and the world around you.!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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DO YOU SEE YOURSELF IN THE RIGHT LIGHT

You might be asking yourself,”What is the right light?” My experience as a coach has shown me that it’s achieving “Positive self-love.”  So many people have trouble with understanding self-love and remaining positive when things aren’t  going well. So many times I hear my friends say, “I see the light shining on you.” I smile, and say, “What does that mean?” They laugh and say,” “You’re the party that we wait for.” I laugh and say, “that’s a big responsibility.” I continue with, “The party that you’re seeing is my belief that each day is ours, and worth fighting for. A little humor doesn’t hurt!

Liking ourselves is our way of transmitting our upbeat feelings to others. Feelings along with actions need to be authentic. A bunch of jokes to cover up one’s real feelings has little to do with the truth. I have a client who would come to my office, at the beginning of  his coaching, and tell me 5 jokes before we would begin. I would say, “I’m glad you like to be funny, but you’re jokes are getting in the way of facing your real problems.” He looked at me and said, “I always do that.” In fact, he said it in a serious tone. He has been with me awhile and has become far more aware of his constant jokes. It isn’t negative to be funny, but it’s uncomfortable to live a lie, which comes from fear.

Why do we fear our truth, when we can live it?  Truth is not scary, it elevates our self-esteem. Truth heals your body, while living lies damages it. Why do we get sick when our lives are so intense. Our bodies are more fragile than we think. Truth and health go hand and hand. Truth, energy and spirit go hand and hand.  My brand has been truth since I was five. At least that’s what my father told me.

The world would be a much better place if we intelligently understood what we need and act upon it. Peace would not be so hard to find! We could all see ourselves in the right light!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Many believe that if we overdo with our personality, and tell a lot of jokes, people may not recognize what we truly feel.  Do you recognize that you often overdo when you are out with someone, just to please that person, and make him or her like you?  If your answer is yes, remember that it won’t work if you are faking what you feel. Faking is lying and has nothing to do with the truth.

Authenticity and believing in yourself are the keys to letting someone get close to you. Why are so many of us afraid of letting someone close to us. Do we think that we feel better when we stay at a distance?

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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WE NEED TO DO THE BEST WE CAN!

When you read the title of this blog it is certainly familiar.  So many human beings say this to themselves or to others. It is their way of challenging or inspiring themselves, because it is not always what they do or can do!

There are times when I hear my clients say, “I’m trying to do the best I can.” I find myself responding with, “I’m happy to hear that, but I’d like to hear that “You’re going to do the best you can.” Since my brand is truth,  I tell them the truth. Why is it that you never count the good you do? Why is it that you count what you didn’t do well? They respond with, “I’m not perfect.”  I tend to put my hands over my ears, in frustration, and say, “nobody’s perfect”!  I calm down and say, “sorry, but we have worked on the fact that there is no perfection. You are good enough!”

My teachings as a coach are live your truth, self-love, believe in yourself, courage, take a risk, and recognize your talent and ability.  As clients come to me for the first time, I ask them to write three lists. What do I like about myself? What I don’t I like about myself, and How have I sabotaged myself in my relationships? The first list is one that they have a very difficult time with. Can you believe that? The second list is long and easy for them. The third list is the easiest for them. The most difficult list to do is “What does self-love mean to me.”

My biggest challenge in coaching is the fact that most of my clients start out with negative thoughts about themselves. For instance, their second list, “What I don’t like about myself” is full of what I call lies.

One client wrote down, “I am too fat.” and I respond with “What size dress do you wear?” She looks down and says, “size four”!  I lifted her head and said, “that’s a lie.”  She also wrote “I hate my hair.” I respond with, “Your hair is lovely, it’s so soft.” She responds with, “it has no body.” I look at her and say, “another lie. It’s unfortunate that so many people cannot take compliments. In fact, they do not believe you if you tell them they are smart, beautiful, or even if you like their sweater. Their lack of self-esteem is suffering, and they show you that they are not confident, even when you compliment them.

My goal is to help my clients to truthfully care about themselves. It may matter if they are not raised with love or lived with critical parents, who never complimented them, but they can change or alter this insecurity.

We cannot live in the past, we must live with the now, and the now affects the future. It is not our fault that our parents never knew better. My book “The Stars In Your family” raising kids as to who they are, rather then who they want them  to be is a good read. It is now on Kindle.

Please remember who you are and what you need for yourself. We can be inspired to live a positive life with less worry, anxiety, and extreme intensity. I can help you do that.  Contact: 312-944-7256

Have a happy day. I will!

 

 

 

 

 

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IF YOU EXUDE LOVE, IT WILL DEFINITELY FIND YOU!

 

So many of my clients admit they want love , but they continue to complain about their inability to find it. I tell them, “There are so many ways to find love. The most important way is building the lack of fear to give love.” It’s not only the romantic love that we look for, it’s receiving those special vibes from people, who can sense your giving nature, and what you portray to them.”

You might want to take this suggestion. When you walk by someone, who has a nice aura, “smile”! If you are in a meeting, “smile”!  If you are sitting in the airport, “smile”! If the other people do not smile back, it doesn’t matter, because you’re practicing the energy of love. Unfortunately, I see so many people walk down the street, in the halls of an office building, or sitting in a restaurant, and they look so unhappy. I feel sad for them, because they do not understand how to give and receive love, which is the truthful gift  of love. When an aura of unhappiness surrounds you, people tend to feel it, and subconsciously tend to move away from you. We cannot reveal our negativity or misery, because we will exude our  pain, not love!

When we are positive we bring light to those who are around us. Spirit and energy prevails over sadness and  “poor me.” I must admit I enjoy people talking to me about my spirit and energy, as it helps me to feel young and stay young. Staying young is not only taking away the wrinkles, or getting a face lift, it’s about sincerely loving ourselves, for our blessings, inner talent, and ability.

We cannot not blame our parents, or the fact that we had very little love, as we grew up. We have a choice as to whether we want to live our lives with joy, and succeed at what we love. I have a friend, who calls me every morning and complains, “Life is so hard.” I care for her, but I say, “Please stop complaining about everything. I take your unhappiness on, and it can spoil my day.” Unfortunately, I had to let her go, since complaining was the drama that she always lived by. It was very unhealthy.

My clients laugh when I advise them to get up in the morning, go into the bathroom, look into the mirror and say, “I love you.” Say, trust me, it’s not a game, it’s about the practice of self-love.

I truly believe that one’s  productivity and success thrives with self-love.  It thrives when we believe in ourselves. It diminishes when we get in our own way with self-criticism, nervous anxiety, and worry. If we live with chaos, our bodies live with pain, and finally illness. Do not destroy your wonderful traits with negative drama.  If we are blessed with beauty inside and out, we cannot discount it.

I have been writing about violence, because I believe that it’s all about ignorance of self, and a lack of self-discovery. It’s all about anger and false power. Killing does not give us power, it enhances our insecurity and gives us subconscious self-hate. Anger is so far away from love. It is the cause of hate, destruction, and lack of education.  Is it dreadful to live with hate on a daily basis?  I say YES, and could not live with hate for five minutes.

Since truth is my brand, self love is next door. Since living your truth is your real power, the love you want will find you. Reach out, and the peace you pray for will not only be a dream, but a fact of life!