WE MUST NOT ONLY EDUCATE THE MIND, BUT ALSO THE HEART! Kobi Yamada
My father asked me this question when I was seven years old. He said, “Baby what makes you happy? I smiled and said, “Daddy, love is the answer!” He laughed out loud, as he usually did, and said, “I’m going to tell the whole family that my baby needs a lot of love.” I think I never stopped being my father’s baby. In fact, it took me a while to grow up and perform as an adult. Although…to tell you the truth, I never want to say goodbye to my playful nature!
I’m truly an Aries, April 17th, and I’m grateful to have had the courage to validate all of my talents. I would always think of my father, as I changed careers. My accomplishments and success as an actress (my true love), film producer, sports agent. development director, life coach, writer and speaker is all due to my father’s faith in his only child. Even though I lost him early, I always speak to him, and say, “Daddy, keep believing in me.”
The reason I am writing about my father is that he was astrologically compatible to me. He was born in Poland on September 7th (Virgo) and came to the United States when he was thirteen years old. He barely finished the 9th grade, and astrology was a total mystery to him. He didn’t know that being born Aries the ram gave me the traits and characteristics that he loved about me. He would smile and say, “Baby, you have so much energy and courage–you always fight for what you want.” “I responded with, “Daddy you make me so happy, because you truly love who I am.”
My experience as a life coach has shown that women who grow with an attentive and loving
father tend to choose mates who are similar. If they grow up with fathers who are cold, distant, and uncommunicative, they gravitate to mates, who tend to enhance their personal insecurity.
I find that many of my male clients who were raised by domineering and controlling mothers usually attract to a domineering and controlling mate. This mate takes care of everything that they do not want to do, just like mommy did. In addition, they tend to boss them around. I have a short story about two very good friends of mine. We sit down to dinner and I hear her say, “Sit up in your chair, and don’t slouch.” I turn to him and say, “How could you tolerate that statement? He responded with, “I don’t hear her.” He’s 79 and she’s 77 and she is still telling him to sit up in his chair. When clients come to visit me and begin to complain about their bossy wives I ask them, “Why would you want to choose a mother figure over a romantic figure. They smile, shake their heads and say, “You have a point!” I also say “Do you want to be intimate with a mother figure?”
He says, “No.”
So many human beings search for what they call “true love”, but they tend to forget that their idea of “true love” may not mean “Truthful Love!” We cannot forget the importance of developing our consciousness, in order to understand and recognize the kind of person we attract to.” You may be thinking, “What does consciousness mean? When I coach clients, whose relationships are in trouble, I try to tell them. “Relationships are not an illusion. No man or woman should be put on a pedestal because he or she will eventually fall off.” I smile and say, “Remember my ongoing reminder, “be realistic about who you connect to.” NO ONE IS PERFECT!”
My next book is about love relationships, with the aid of Astrology!