You might be asking yourself,”What is the right light?” My experience as a coach has shown me that it’s achieving “Positive self-love.” So many people have trouble with understanding self-love and remaining positive when things aren’t going well. So many times I hear my friends say, “I see the light shining on you.” I smile, and say, “What does that mean?” They laugh and say,” “You’re the party that we wait for.” I laugh and say, “that’s a big responsibility.” I continue with, “The party that you’re seeing is my belief that each day is ours, and worth fighting for. A little humor doesn’t hurt!
Liking ourselves is our way of transmitting our upbeat feelings to others. Feelings along with actions need to be authentic. A bunch of jokes to cover up one’s real feelings has little to do with the truth. I have a client who would come to my office, at the beginning of his coaching, and tell me 5 jokes before we would begin. I would say, “I’m glad you like to be funny, but you’re jokes are getting in the way of facing your real problems.” He looked at me and said, “I always do that.” In fact, he said it in a serious tone. He has been with me awhile and has become far more aware of his constant jokes. It isn’t negative to be funny, but it’s uncomfortable to live a lie, which comes from fear.
Why do we fear our truth, when we can live it? Truth is not scary, it elevates our self-esteem. Truth heals your body, while living lies damages it. Why do we get sick when our lives are so intense. Our bodies are more fragile than we think. Truth and health go hand and hand. Truth, energy and spirit go hand and hand. My brand has been truth since I was five. At least that’s what my father told me.
The world would be a much better place if we intelligently understood what we need and act upon it. Peace would not be so hard to find! We could all see ourselves in the right light!
Many believe that if we overdo with our personality, and tell a lot of jokes, people may not recognize what we truly feel. Do you recognize that you often overdo when you are out with someone, just to please that person, and make him or her like you? If your answer is yes, remember that it won’t work if you are faking what you feel. Faking is lying and has nothing to do with the truth.
Authenticity and believing in yourself are the keys to letting someone get close to you. Why are so many of us afraid of letting someone close to us. Do we think that we feel better when we stay at a distance?