When I was seven years old my father asked me, “What makes you happy baby?” I smiled and responded with, “Daddy, love is the answer.” My father laughed out loud and told the entire family what I said, “Sylvia, said that “love is the answer” and that makes her happy. He continued to say, “I wonder if all of us need to follow her lead and believe that having love could be our answer.” My father knew that he was not very happy with my mother, because he was forced to marry her. That’s what they did in the Jewish families many years ago.
The family did not know that my mother did not love herself, and that everything frightened her. They did not care if my father was not ready for marriage, he had to get married to my mother.
Today, we still have problems with “love being our answer”. We all seem to want it, but have difficulty getting it. My father’s family did not think about my parents’ truth when they insisted they get married, and unfortunately we do not always know our truth today. Do we understand someone when we meet him or her? Do we truly know the personality when we meet him or her? My experience as a coach tells me that my clients do not intuitively know their potential mates or the people they marry.
I still believe that “love is the answer” for me, but as I get older I find, as most people, that so many other things get in the way. We still have to learn about ourselves. We still have to give ourselves permission to trust someone. We still have a lot of anger that we need to get rid of. We still have problems with having relationships. I am still helping people of all ages to understand self-love. I am still helping my clients to work on their anger. I try very hard to remain realistic when I coach my clients. As an idealist I want my clients to understand and believe in love.
My truly powerful wish is to help my clients with self-love. When they begin to understand how meaningful it is to love yourself, they see the differences they have with personal and professional
relationships. They stand up for themselves and lose the need to please. They have the desire to depend on their own approval first. I want my clients to see the importance of self-love, in order to become courageous and strong within. I guess I am still the seven year old who believes in love. I want to pass this feeling on to you.