There are many pleasers in the world, and those pleasers have a very difficult time saying “No” when they want to. We all have the right to say no when we want to. We just have to believe that we are lovable without trying to please or get approval.
Saying no also makes some people feel that they are not good people. Of course, this is wrong.
There are so many times that we say yes and regret it because we are not getting the response we need. We can never give up the fact that we have an opinion and we cannot be used. The more we feel that we are responsible for our own behavior and do not go against the grain of who we are, the better we feel.
A lot of our behavior begins when we live with extreme expectations from our parents. Our parents do not always understand how much they hurt us by raising us as to who they expect us to be. So many parents do not ask you “How do you feel?” What do you think?” If we are not given the permission to think or feel, we begin to build inner anger. Parents do not realize that they can be responsible for the lack of self-esteem in their children. They do not realize that saying no is the right they give to their children.
Bossy parents work through their egos. Their parents did not give them the opportunity to say no. We cannot function through our egos. We need to function with the knowledge that we know who we are.
I am always saying “Love Is The Answer” and I definitely believe it. My father gave me the love that I needed and never thought that his guidance did not include me. I am so grateful for his love and I miss him everyday.
My advice is to say “No” when it’s right for you. Look at your lives and realize that you own you, you belong to you, and you need to take care of you! Our personal lives need to have the word no in our vocabulary.
Our professional lives need some compromise, but not when we compromise ourselves. We will always be respected when people recognize that we feel that we are deserving and worthy. If we continually bend to someone else they will think that we will always do what they want. Leaders can say no professionally, but they do not always have the same reaction personally. When we can be courageous about the need to personally communicate we will be in charge of our lives. I am writing a book called “Truthful Love” with the aid of astrology. I have been an astrologer for over 20 years and find that the evaluation of personalities are very accurate. I always use the gift I have been given when it comes to intuition and when I coach I depend on my intuition. I have changed many lives and those people are much happier with finding out who they really are. It may sound unusual to read that most people do not know who they are, but their fear overcomes them and they tend to hide. Developing our courage and self-love is the answer to becoming the person you want to be!
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